Trevor Bauer Guilty Of Being An Idiot, Victim Of His Own Stupid Decisions | HOOKSTEAD

Trevor Bauer is more of a cautionary tale of what foolish sexual decisions lead to than he is an innocent lily-white victim.

The embattled former Dodgers pitcher has been fighting to get back to the MLB ever since being placed on leave and ultimately suspended after sexual abuse allegations surfaced.

The initial allegations were brought by a woman named Lindsey Hill, who alleged at the time that Bauer abused her in rough fashion during a sexual encounter. Hill's claims of abuse are now widely-viewed as false and debunked, and the two settled a lawsuit that resulted in Bauer paying nothing. A phone call was later released where Hill claimed to be in significant pain, and Bauer acknowledged he was asked to hit her, according to the New York Post.

What really happened the night of the alleged sexual encounter will likely never be known, but there's certainly no proof that the public is aware of to suggest Bauer did anything to break the law. That's the reality of the situation.

How much responsibility does Trevor Bauer hold for the situations he's found himself in? (Photo by Thearon W. Henderson/Getty Images)

Trevor Bauer addresses fate of second accuser.

Well, Bauer took another victory lap Tuesday when another accuser - Darcy Adanna Esemonu - was charged with felony fraud after allegedly lying about being pregnant in an attempt to extort him.

The former MLB pitcher claimed he had "one plain sexual encounter in December 2020. Nothing that could be considered remotely rough. She initiated it."

He proceeded to display messages to back up his story that Esemonu was the person pursuing a sexual relationship, and as he showed, doesn't seem to be the kind of person playing with a full deck of cards.

Trevor Bauer owns some of the blame for his fate.

However, Bauer's latest video also confirms a different story that has long been simmering:

He's an idiot when it comes to his sexual decisions.

What's clear from Bauer's sexual encounters with Hill and Esemonu is that he didn't know these women well at all. Yet, he still made the conscious and proactive decisions to have sexual relations with two women who later attempted to ruin his life. To some degree, Hill succeeded. Trevor Bauer was booted out of the MLB after her allegations, and there appears to be very little interest in bringing him back.

Hill lying - if that's what has happened - is totally unacceptable, unforgivable, shameful and downright disgusting. The exact same can be said for Darcy Adanna Esemonu, who is facing criminal charges.

None of what was just said dissolves Bauer of his responsibility in this situation, and he holds a lot of it. More than most people would like to admit.

Trevor Bauer isn't blameless for the situation he's currently in. (Photo by Meg Oliphant/Getty Images)

Here's a basic reality of life. When you engage in sexual relations with someone you don't really know, you're more or less rolling the dice on what's going to happen. You're rolling the dice that the person you're choosing to engage in sexual activity with is sane, rational, normal and not going to try to screw you over (no pun intended) down the line.

How would we judge Bauer's ability to judge women? I'd say it's about as bad as it gets. One slip up could, in theory, happen to anyone who makes promiscuous sexual decisions. How does this guy find himself having it happen multiple times? Where is he meeting these women? Does he not have any vetting of them at all?

Again, there's no excuse for lying from those women. None, but let's not pretend like Trevor Bauer was some innocent angel who was minding his own business when a plan was concocted against him. The former Dodgers pitcher chose to make incredibly dumb sexual decisions by having sex with women he seemingly didn't know at all. It's even riskier given the fact he allegedly engaged in incredibly rough sex with someone he didn't know well at all.

To quote the great Lane Kiffin, "What f*cking world do you live in?"

Bauer is responsible for his own decisions.

Late Tuesday night, I sent the tweet below, and it led to some responses that I was victim blaming. Not at all. I'm simply pointing out basic realities.

People who say I'm totally wrong will point out that it's easy for young men (Bauer is 33) with access to money to have women thrown at them. It's a correct point, but it doesn't actually change the reality on the ground at all.

When I was younger, I was given some very simple advice: Don't engage in sexual activity, especially if alcohol is involved, with women you do not know and aren't close with. Whether it's meeting a woman at a bar or on a dating app, strangers crossing paths in a sexual fashion carries significant risks. I'm not talking about meeting the farmer's daughter down the road who you've known on some level for a decade.

I'm talking women you don't know and don't know the intentions of.

Trevor Bauer should have made smarter sexual decisions. (Photo by Katelyn Mulcahy/Getty Images)

It's simply too risky, and it's not a risk worth taking. Slow is smooth and smooth is fast. No need to rush anything. Of course, I threw that advice to the wind in my younger days, and did what many young men in my situation would have done with easy access to parties, alcohol, money and women. So, I understand better than most the counter-argument Bauer's most diehard defenders will make.

That's why I can also tell you just how stupid that mindset is. Fortunately, I was much better at picking women than Bauer. None of them were crazy. In fact, many of them turned out to be really great people who have gone on and lived incredibly successful lives and have happy families. However, it was still a roll of the dice every single time. The outcome doesn't change the fact it was risky behavior that anyone with a functioning brain should have known to tap the brakes.

Bauer chose to engage in casual sexual activity with women he appears to not have really known at all, and he likely didn't give it a second thought. How's that working out for him? It seems to have blown up in his face and destroyed his MLB career. If Trevor Bauer had never had allegedly rough sex with Lindsey Hill, he'd still be in the MLB. Is it fair? No, but it's the world we live in.

I'm sure many of you will disagree with the points I'm making here. I don't really care because at some point someone has to stand up and speak a little common sense. What these women have allegedly done to Trevor Bauer is wrong. It's also foolish and downright idiotic to have sex with women you don't know when there's so much on the line.

Will Trevor Bauer ever play in the MLB again? (Photo by Meg Oliphant/Getty Images)

That's advice Bauer probably wishes he'd had a few years ago. Maybe he actually got the same advice I did, and ignored it like many people do. I don't know, but I do know he could have avoided all of this if he'd used his brain a bit more. Stop having sex with people you don't know, take some time to think things over and I promise you won't regret it. This is advice that could have saved Trevor Bauer's career. Instead, he's now a cautionary tale of what poor decision making in bed with people you don't know can lead to in a nightmare scenario. Let me know your thoughts at David.Hookstead@outkick.com.