Parent Writes Eye-Opening Letter About Race-Obsessed Private School

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This letter is a must-read.

Friday, Bari Weiss posted a letter written by Andrew Gutman, explaining why he pulled his daughter out of Brearley School. Gutman sent the letter to nearly 600 families whose children are enrolled in the private school.

Brearley is an all-girls school on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. It takes $54,000 a year to attend along with a bogus “anti-racism pledge,” per Weiss.

You can accurately guess from the pledge that the school isn’t about ending racism, but demanding its students develop a narrow, only see people by their skin color mindset.

Here’s the letter:

Dear Fellow Brearley Parents, 

Our family recently made the decision not to reenroll our daughter at Brearley for the 2021-22 school year. She has been at Brearley for seven years, beginning in kindergarten. In short, we no longer believe that Brearley’s administration and Board of Trustees have any of our children’s best interests at heart. Moreover, we no longer have confidence that our daughter will receive the quality of education necessary to further her development into a critically thinking, responsible, enlightened, and civic minded adult. I write to you, as a fellow parent, to share our reasons for leaving the Brearley community but also to urge you to act before the damage to the school, to its community, and to your own child’s education is irreparable. 

It cannot be stated strongly enough that Brearley’s obsession with race must stop. It should be abundantly clear to any thinking parent that Brearley has completely lost its way. The administration and the Board of Trustees have displayed a cowardly and appalling lack of leadership by appeasing an anti-intellectual, illiberal mob, and then allowing the school to be captured by that same mob. What follows are my own personal views on Brearley’s antiracism initiatives, but these are just a handful of the criticisms that I know other parents have expressed. 

I object to the view that I should be judged by the color of my skin. I cannot tolerate a school that not only judges my daughter by the color of her skin, but encourages and instructs her to prejudge others by theirs. By viewing every element of education, every aspect of history, and every facet of society through the lens of skin color and race, we are desecrating the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and utterly violating the movement for which such civil rights leaders believed, fought, and died. 

I object to the charge of systemic racism in this country, and at our school. Systemic racism, properly understood, is segregated schools and separate lunch counters. It is the interning of Japanese and the exterminating of Jews. Systemic racism is unequivocally not a small number of isolated incidences over a period of decades. Ask any girl, of any race, if they have ever experienced insults from friends, have ever felt slighted by teachers or have ever suffered the occasional injustice from a school at which they have spent up to 13 years of their life, and you are bound to hear grievances, some petty, some not. We have not had systemic racism against Blacks in this country since the civil rights reforms of the 1960s, a period of more than 50 years. To state otherwise is a flat-out misrepresentation of our country’s history and adds no understanding to any of today’s societal issues. If anything, longstanding and widespread policies such as affirmative action, point in precisely the opposite direction. 

I object to a definition of systemic racism, apparently supported by Brearley, that any educational, professional, or societal outcome where Blacks are underrepresented is prima facie evidence of the aforementioned systemic racism, or of white supremacy and oppression. Facile and unsupported beliefs such as these are the polar opposite to the intellectual and scientific truth for which Brearley claims to stand. Furthermore, I call bullshit on Brearley’s oft-stated assertion that the school welcomes and encourages the truly difficult and uncomfortable conversations regarding race and the roots of racial discrepancies. 

I object to the idea that Blacks are unable to succeed in this country without aid from government or from whites. Brearley, by adopting critical race theory, is advocating the abhorrent viewpoint that Blacks should forever be regarded as helpless victims, and are incapable of success regardless of their skills, talents, or hard work. What Brearley is teaching our children is precisely the true and correct definition of racism. 

I object to mandatory anti-racism training for parents, especially when presented by the rent-seeking charlatans of Pollyanna. These sessions, in both their content and delivery, are so sophomoric and simplistic, so unsophisticated and inane, that I would be embarrassed if they were taught to Brearley kindergarteners. They are an insult to parents and unbecoming of any educational institution, let alone one of Brearley’s caliber. 

I object to Brearley’s vacuous, inappropriate, and fanatical use of words such as “equity,” “diversity” and “inclusiveness.” If Brearley’s administration was truly concerned about so-called “equity,” it would be discussing the cessation of admissions preferences for legacies, siblings, and those families with especially deep pockets. If the administration was genuinely serious about “diversity,” it would not insist on the indoctrination of its students, and their families, to a single mindset, most reminiscent of the Chinese Cultural Revolution. Instead, the school would foster an environment of intellectual openness and freedom of thought. And if Brearley really cared about “inclusiveness,” the school would return to the concepts encapsulated in the motto “One Brearley,” instead of teaching the extraordinarily divisive idea that there are only, and always, two groups in this country: victims and oppressors. 

l object to Brearley’s advocacy for groups and movements such as Black Lives Matter, a Marxist, anti family, heterophobic, anti-Asian and anti-Semitic organization that neither speaks for the majority of the Black community in this country, nor in any way, shape or form, represents their best interests. 

I object to, as we have been told time and time again over the past year, that the school’s first priority is the safety of our children. For goodness sake, Brearley is a school, not a hospital! The number one priority of a school has always been, and always will be, education. Brearley’s misguided priorities exemplify both the safety culture and “cover-your-ass” culture that together have proved so toxic to our society and have so damaged the mental health and resiliency of two generations of children, and counting. 

I object to the gutting of the history, civics, and classical literature curriculums. I object to the censorship of books that have been taught for generations because they contain dated language potentially offensive to the thin-skinned and hypersensitive (something that has already happened in my daughter’s 4th grade class). I object to the lowering of standards for the admission of students and for the hiring of teachers. I object to the erosion of rigor in classwork and the escalation of grade inflation. Any parent with eyes open can foresee these inevitabilities should antiracism initiatives be allowed to persist. 

We have today in our country, from both political parties, and at all levels of government, the most unwise and unvirtuous leaders in our nation’s history. Schools like Brearley are supposed to be the training grounds for those leaders. Our nation will not survive a generation of leadership even more poorly educated than we have now, nor will we survive a generation of students taught to hate its own country and despise its history. 

Lastly, I object, with as strong a sentiment as possible, that Brearley has begun to teach what to think, instead of how to think. I object that the school is now fostering an environment where our daughters, and our daughters’ teachers, are afraid to speak their minds in class for fear of “consequences.” I object that Brearley is trying to usurp the role of parents in teaching morality, and bullying parents to adopt that false morality at home. I object that Brearley is fostering a divisive community where families of different races, which until recently were part of the same community, are now segregated into twoThese are the reasons why we can no longer send our daughter to Brearley. 

Over the past several months, I have personally spoken to many Brearley parents as well as parents of children at peer institutions. It is abundantly clear that the majority of parents believe that Brearley’s antiracism policies are misguided, divisive, counterproductive and cancerous. Many believe, as I do, that these policies will ultimately destroy what was until recently, a wonderful educational institution. But as I am sure will come as no surprise to you, given the insidious cancel culture that has of late permeated our society, most parents are too fearful to speak up. 

But speak up you must. There is strength in numbers and I assure you, the numbers are there. Contact the administration and the Board of Trustees and demand an end to the destructive and anti-intellectual claptrap known as antiracism. And if changes are not forthcoming then demand new leadership. For the sake of our community, our city, our country and most of all, our children, silence is no longer an option. 


Andrew Gutmann

Of the many lines that stand out, the following should stick with you:

“I object to the view that I should be judged by the color of my skin. I cannot tolerate a school that not only judges my daughter by the color of her skin, but encourages and instructs her to prejudge others by theirs. By viewing every element of education, every aspect of history, and every facet of society through the lens of skin color and race.”

That isn’t just a Brearley problem, that’s the thought process now adopted across corporate America.

Written by Bobby Burack

Bobby Burack is a writer for OutKick where he reports and analyzes the latest topics in media, culture, sports, and politics..

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  1. The father who wrote this letter has the courage of his convictions. Good for him for speaking out and getting his daughter out of that awful environment. Sadly I don’t think too many other parents will do the same. So long as they believe these “elite” private schools will get their kids into an “elite” college and an “elite” career, they’ll keep paying the ridiculous tuition, donating $, and putting up with the woke BS. Nothing will change.

  2. How do I say that these are my thoughts almost entirely. This man put some time into putting this letter together and he hit the nail on the head. Everything is not about race. You can be successful regardless of racial or ethnic background. We are not a country of victims and oppressors. Why does everyone want to come to the USA? (See the Southern Border crisis) What the heck has happened in our educational system?

  3. This was great and reminiscent of the 2nd Amendment speech given by Mark Robinson in South Carolina back in 2018….his, “I AM THE MAJORITY” speech. We need more people like this to speak out when being pushed.

  4. The twitter mafia canceling Andrew Gutmann in 54321. Amen to this guy. Hope more parents follow him out the door. Things will only change when enough people start to push back. Good luck finding a new school in the city that isn’t pushing this crap. Conservatives freely gave up the education system to the libs and look where we are now. Republicans are so damn shortsighted. The dems played the long game and are kicking are ass at the moment. It’s time to wake up folks before the country is complete shite.

  5. That is one impressive letter from a dad to be admired. Standing up in these days of constant faux racial spew and the cancel mob takes bigtime fortitude. Surely some of those 600 families he sent the letter to will take action as well.

  6. Tremendous, well thought out letter. Kudos to Mr. Gutman. Our hope is that many more Andrew Gutman’s push back against the vile indoctrination’s happening in our schools.

  7. I used to brag about private school. my son attended private school until my divorce, but during one stretch, he came home upset. he had a project on Polar Bears dying off. i was stunned. i literally spent a week gathering magazines and data to show Polar Bears are thriving, which is true.

    i was unlearning my son from what he learned from some liberal hidden away at the school. i thought.

    i think conflicts like that stick to a kid and grows. he doubted either my information or his female teacher’s info.

    this is how the left works.

    • Ditto. I gave my private school High Schooler a 30 minute lesson on the anarchy movement, its history from 1900 to today. At the end she looked at me and said, “Wow, I just learned more about something important than I have in 3 years of history classes.” Next I explained the Chinese Cultural Revolution. She had never heard of it.

  8. Many parents of all races will read that letter and agree completely with everything stated but a politician, concerned only with holding office, will never speak words like these. The mob controls the culture and the 1st Amendment

  9. Courageous letter. Every writer at NYT an WaPo should be required to read this and do some real journalism and try to refute what Mr Guttman has so eloquently stated.

    WaPo: “Democracy dies in darkness”. The majority of those clowns haven’t had a lightbulb or known where the light switch is for decades. Nor could they problem-solve and know where a flashlight or a candle and some matches are.

  10. To counter a Northern VA school discussion or something they see on a kids TV show, not a week goes by when I don’t reiterate to my school-age kids what will define their lives:
    1. Their faith / belief in themselves and in something greater than themselves
    2. Their ability to communicate
    3. Their own ability to listen, think clearly and problem-solve
    4. The decisions they make
    5. The friends they surround themselves with
    6. How they react to their family
    Decisions are problem-solving and the last 2 are of course choices – so really it boils down to the top 3. And then I make them repeat them and state clearly that the color of a person’s skin is not on this list and doesn’t define who they are or will become.

    And yes, my ex and I are exploring education options outside of Northern VA for next year. Best school systems in the country? Hardly.

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