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It’s Tuesday, time for the anonymous mailbag.

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Okay, here we go with the mailbag.

As always, send your questions to, anonymity guaranteed.

“I am 22 years old going into my last year of college, and one of my good friends has invited me to his bachelor party in Las Vegas. My girlfriend of 6 months is highly opposed to this idea, and has created the ultimatum of either her or the bachelor party. If I go, she breaks up with me. Do you think she is bluffing? Is there a solution I can propose that could possibly make her okay with me going? Or should I DBAP and go have one of the best weekends of my life in Sin City and enjoy my last year of college a free man? Any advice would be appreciated.”

Go to the bachelor party. But before you go to the bachelor party tell your girlfriend the ultimatum she put forward convinced you that you needed to break up with her before you left on the bachelor party because you believe she’s being unduly controlling and you don’t like the direction of the relationship.

This accomplishes two things: 1. you’ll be single in Las Vegas and can hook up with anyone who is willing to hook up with you on the bachelor party. 2 when you return your ex-girlfriend will do everything in her power to get you to date her again because she’ll be insanely attracted to how ballsy you were to not just call her bluff, but break up with her on the spot and go to Vegas directly in contradiction of her demands.

Then you’ll get wild make-up sex as she attempts to persuade you to return to the relationship.

Best of all: if you decide to reengage on the relationship then you’ll have established relationship dominance and will no longer have to listen to her demands. Furthermore, she will know that she can no longer make threats like this because you’ll flip the script and break up with her.

Seriously, follow every word of this advice and thank me later.

“I have a huge fear of flying, which is a huge problem since my job requires me to fly around the country. I have gone to great lengths to help the fear- pounding beers in airport, popping pills, but nothing seems to help. I’m now at the point where I will drive 14 hours to different cities for work, instead of getting on a fucking plane. Do you have any advice for overcoming this irrational fear oh wise one?”

The way I deal with my fears is by studying a subject until I have completely mastered all the facts and figures and I can intellectualize the decision I’m making.

In other words, if you’re afraid of flying what you should do is find books on the subject and read everything you can about how safe commercial aviation is.

Fear is often a function of failing to comprehend the probability of a danger actually occurring. Your odds of dying in a plane crash are 1 in 11 million. Your odds of dying in a car crash are 1 in 5,000. So by choosing to drive to places you are increasing the odds of your death by a massive amount.

In the event these data points don’t change your mind when it comes to danger, I’ve never done it, but I would look into therapy or hypnosis if I were you.

It’s evidently possible for a hypnotist to fool your mind into not being afraid — again I can’t speak to it, but some say it works — and many find that talking to a therapist about their fears can help to alleviate those fears as well.

But both of those decisions cost you money, I’d just pour your energy into researching commercial aviation until you understand that your fear is not rooted in objective reality. That is, there are not facts to back up your opinions.

“So I got out of a two year relationship back in February and I just started seeing another girl not too long ago. Great sex, having a lot of fun together, and I’m definitely outkicking my coverage. My ex and I split because she moved out of the country. There was no bad blood between us so the relationship ended about as good as one can end. 
The problem I feel coming on is that I catch myself almost calling this new girl by my ex-girlfriend’s name, maybe even during sex. The name is just sitting in the back of my mind laying dormant and I just know it’s gonna come spilling out of my mouth one day. My question to you is what can I do to prevent this from happening? My follow up question is what do I do if it happens?”
I’m not sure you can prevent it from happening because if you could do that, you wouldn’t be worried about making the mistake.
But if it does happen I know exactly what you should do: lie and claim your current girlfriend misheard you.
Honesty is not always the best policy, especially when you call your current girlfriend your ex-girlfriend’s name.
In fact, you know what people who generally say honesty is the best policy are? Virgins.

“I sit in a pod with two other dudes, all of us are basically 30.  One of them is a quiet, timid, boring version of Jason Martin circa 2016 (6’3” 300+ lbs).  He has been coughing about every 45 seconds for the past 2 months. Do I bring it up to him and say “Hey dude, you’ve been coughing a lot, you should go to a doctor.” Or, do I say nothing? I mean surely to God his wife hears the same thing and she has two children with him.  I feel most men in general wouldn’t say anything since we avoid doctors at all cost and to say that to another man would be a bitch-move.  Also, should me not liking him very much play into my decision say something or not?”

I think you say something.

First, because it’s annoying. If you sit in a cubicle with someone all day and they can’t stop coughing that becomes incredibly grating no matter who you are.

Second, because he might actually have an infectious disease and what if he gets other people sick at work?

Third, because, in general, even if you don’t like the guy, you should be opposed to his death. Now, remember, you’re never going to be able to hate death more than me, but you should be opposed to it as much as possible. Plus, what if his wife has left him and she has no idea he’s slowly coughing himself to death.

You could save his life and become a hero. Which would then allow you to brag to girls at the bar about how you saved the fat guy at the office’s life and then maybe they’d hook up with you over how much of a hero you were.

“I have a huge dilemma.  A few of my close friends all turn 30 this year and have been planning a trip to Mexico for a while now. There are about 10 people in to rent a nice house on the beach for a week. Both boys and girls. Sounds like a blast.

However, one of my high school friends recently asked me to be a groomsman in his wedding. We were pretty good friends but haven’t really kept in contact. His bachelor party is going to be the same weekend as our Mexico trip. The bachelor party is at a lake house in Montana that belongs to one of the other groomsman’s parents. I have never met any of the other groomsman, and it seems like it’s just going to be 7 dudes locked up in a cabin for a weekend.  Money isn’t really a factor. HELP! What do I do?”

You say you’d love to be a groomsman, but you have already put down a nonrefundable deposit for the weekend in Mexico and just realized they are the same weekend.

Tell him you’d be happy to be a groomsman at his wedding even without attending the bachelor party, but you totally understand if he doesn’t want you to be a groomsman given the fact that you’ll miss the bachelor party weekend.

Enjoy Mexico.

“I was at the strip club recently and we had a VIP area near the stage by the big screen. We eventually separated into married and singled sections, the single guys had some girls in the VIP while the married guys were towards the corner by the TV. Every time a new girl came to the VIP she’d see no girl in the married guy section and stop by to talk with us first. Eventually the girls would realize we weren’t going to be spending a lot of cash and made their way to the other side of the VIP.

I don’t blame the dancers, they need to be personable to make a living and would rather go where its less crowded, but this was a time waster for both of us. This is where I thought, why don’t strip clubs give you a green/red cards like they do at a Brazilian steakhouses? If you were interested in getting a dance you could flip your card to green, if you were just enjoying a drink or the main stage then flip to red. This way the girls know who to approach/don’t waste their time and I’m not stuck making small talk with strippers.

Besides possibly being degrading what is the downside to this?”
This would be a bad move for the strippers because their entire business model is predicated on convincing men who may not be planning on spending money on them to spend money on them. If all a guy had to do was flip a card to avoid being approached by a strippper then they’d make infinitely less revenue because I’m sure a huge percentage of strip club revenue comes from “guy who isn’t going to spend any money on strippers.”
Take it outside of the strip club, for instance. Imagine if car lots allowed you to walk around with a red sticker that signified, “I am not going to buy a car,” and no salesman was allowed to approach them on the lot. My prediction would be that car sales revenue would plummet since a good salesman is able to convince someone to buy a car who might not have been intending to buy a car.
The same is true of a good stripper, except instead of a car she’s selling her (naked) body and companionship.
As for your particular night at the strip club, I’d think the married guys would want the attention from the strippers more than the single guys would. The single guys might be able to pick up a new girl at a bar when they leave the strip club, the married guys are going home.
If strip clubs only made money off single guys, they’d be bankrupt. In fact, I’d bet a substantial majority of overall strip club revenue is coming from married guys since they are: 1. older and more likely to be financially secure/wealthy than single guys and 2. because they’re married and not able to chase women without breaking their wedding vows/societal condemnation.
The strip club is their night out whereas for single guys a strip club is just part of a night out.
“Over the weekend my wife and I went to dinner with a couple we are friends with. Over dinner the husband who is a surgeon told me about a merger between his hospital and another hospital. Now, I’m expecting to hear that they are teaming up to with the goal to develop the cure for cancer, use more technology in operations, attract the most skilled doctors to come to their system, you know, things that you want in a hospital.
Well, would you ever guess that he told me that one of the top priorities and main initiatives of the new hospital system was to promote social fucking justice?!?. What is going on in our country when hospitals are prioritizing social justice over quality of their healthcare? Has social media scared the hell out of hospital systems into worrying more about a “tweet storm” of outraged blue check marks retweeting some story from HuffingtonPost about how a hospital may have more white male doctors than gay/minority/Islamic/female doctors? 
He proceeded to tell me that his hospital is extremely skittish about accepting ANY new white doctors regardless of the qualifications that doctor brings. He told me if you are a minority and better yet a minority female you’re pretty much guaranteed the spot you are vying for as long as you have the absolute bare minimum requirements. Look, I don’t care what color/sex/religion my doctor is, I want to have the most skilled and best one in his/her field possible.
I’m very discriminatory when it comes to doctors, I want the best. I’ll discriminate the fuck out of you until I get the best.

We are doomed, but I plan on staying the #DBAP course till the bitter end.”

It’s insane to me that this is happening in a field like medicine where ALL THAT SHOULD MATTER IS WHO IS BETTER AT TREATING PATIENTS AND GETTING THEM HEALTHY.
But it’s happening everywhere. I was talking to a few friends recently who are lawyers and they said that clients are demanding their lawyers be diverse. Which means that law firms are now putting less skilled lawyers on work for those clients –which increases the cost and diminishes the quality of the legal representation — just so the client can brag about how diverse their lawyers are.
What kind of client thinks diversity is worth spending more and getting less quality?
Many of them!
This is insane to me and a big section of my new book.
All that should matter when it comes to a highly-skilled profession like a doctor or a lawyer is how good the doctor or the lawyer is. Everything else is secondary.
Can you imagine if, for instance, mechanics had a diversity quotient? The idea is absurd, isn’t it? That you would care what the race, religion, or ethnicity of the person who worked on your car was?
Can you imagine if sports leagues ran their teams like this? “Yes, we lost by fifty today, but you did notice how cosmetically diverse our team was?”
It’s pure insanity.
Worst of all, it’s racist!
Because you’re picking someone based entirely on their race.
Now if, for instance, you can show me that patients or hiring committees are picking inferior doctors because they are biased to believe that for instance, a white male doctor is better than a black female doctor, and that the black female is better at her job based on objective metrics then I would be open to the hospital decision.
But hiring doctors or lawyers entirely based on their race is absurd. Especially when you’re hiring doctors of inferior training or acumen.
Every hospital — or law firm — should pick the best doctors, period.
So should every job in America.
Hope y’all have a fantastic fourth of July, I’m headed to the beach with the boys and taking the rest of the week off from radio.
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Written by Clay Travis

Clay Travis is the founder of the fastest growing national multimedia platform, OutKick, that produces and distributes engaging content across sports and pop culture to millions of fans across the country. OutKick was created by Travis in 2011 and sold to the Fox Corporation in 2021.

One of the most electrifying and outspoken personalities in the industry, Travis hosts OutKick The Show where he provides his unfiltered opinion on the most compelling headlines throughout sports, culture, and politics. He also makes regular appearances on FOX News Media as a contributor providing analysis on a variety of subjects ranging from sports news to the cultural landscape.

Additionally, Travis serves as a co-host of The Clay Travis and Buck Sexton Show, a three-hour conservative radio talk program syndicated across Premiere Networks radio stations nationwide.

Previously, he launched OutKick The Coverage on Fox Sports Radio that included interviews and listener interactions, and started an iHeartRadio Original Podcast called Wins & Losses that featured in-depth conversations with the biggest names in sports.

Travis is a graduate of George Washington University as well as Vanderbilt Law School. Based in Nashville, he is the author of Dixieland Delight, On Rocky Top, and Republicans Buy Sneakers.